Published on October 21st, 2016 | by Jessica Zucker


WHAT TO SAY–AND WHAT NOT TO SAY–AFTER SOMEONE HAS A MISCARRIAGE by Jessica Zucker, Illustrated by Ryan Alexander-Tanner


It is pregnancy loss and infant loss awareness month. 

This comic was originally published at Bitch. Be sure to check out the next installment of Jessica Zucker’s #IHadAMiscarriage campaign, which launched in 2014. In 2015, Dr. Zucker created a line of pregnancy loss cards that we featured in an interview at MUTHA. This year, she has added t-shirts and totes. All in an effort to: de-stigmatize, de-silence, de-shame miscarriage; promote support, connection, community; foster conversations about this taboo topic; own our stories and, ultimately, change the culture surrounding pregnancy loss. To submit your story to Dr. Zucker’s campaign: @IHadAMiscarriage.

Dr. Zucker has collaborated frequently with cartoonist Ryan Alexander-Tanner, an award-winning Portland-based artist and educator. More about Ryan and his work here!

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About the Author

Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based psychologist specializing in reproductive and maternal mental health. Jessica’s writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Guardian, New York Magazine, and Vogue, among others. Dr. Zucker is the creator of the #IHadaMiscarriage campaign. Her first book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement is now available (Feminist Press + Penguin Random House Audio).

One Response to WHAT TO SAY–AND WHAT NOT TO SAY–AFTER SOMEONE HAS A MISCARRIAGE by Jessica Zucker, Illustrated by Ryan Alexander-Tanner

  1. Becky says:

    Everything said here is spot on. I had several miscarriages many years ago and few people spoke of it. If they did, it was one of the usual platitudes. My 36 year old son died unexpectedly on April 17th, 2016 of a previously unknown heart problem. I walked in his room to wake him up and found him dead. The most hurtful thing is no one will talk about him except my mother and husband. His sister literally never says his name and neither does his beloved 9 year old nephew. It is a shockingly lonely feeling. Give women who have suffered a miscarriage support for at least several months. While it might not be a significant loss to you, it was their child. It was a child for whom they had hopes and dreams and their arms ache.

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